So things have definately changed since Baby arrived. There are so many wonderful things that come along with his enterance into our lives; but I have found some challenges too!
Mainly, it's spending time with my hubby. Time that we had previously set aside is no longer just the two of us. Most of the time, it's great to have a family outing, but sometimes the two of us are really missing the time baby-free. The communication isn't quite the same any more either. There are times both of us miss what the other is saying because we're caring for Baby at the same time. And by the time the baby is down for the night, one of both of us asleep or fast approaching dream land.
So, what have you done to make sure that you and your hubby are still communicating, and having time together? What are some of the things you are doing to still have that connection time?
Are you saving money to have a big (or not so big depending on your budget) date for just the two of you and paying a sitter? Or are you just taking the family time and talking over the noise?
What keeps things happy between the two of you?
To be honest we are completely blessed by the parents we have. They will always take the baby. For secret shopping is the way to go, instead of spending money on dinner we get paid to eat it!
ReplyDeleteSo how do you het signed up for secret shopping?! That sounds like a great way to do things.
ReplyDeleteWe definitely have found it more difficult to spend time together once baby came! The main time we spend is once he is asleep. We put him to bed between 7 and 8 p.m and don't pick him up after that (if he cries, we just give him his paci and pat him on the back). Also, afternoon naps on the weekends are good times to talk and get things done when the baby is asleep. Occasionally, we go on a 'real' date and pay a babysitter. We try for once a month but it usually farther apart than that.
ReplyDeleteAs Christian wives and moms, it is so important we keep our priorities straight. It should be God first, husbands second and children third. As long as baby is fed, dry and sitting somewhere safe, we should pay attention to our husbands. When hubby walks in the door after work, go kiss him. Talk to him a few minutes. Even if baby is screaming, he needs to learn that he can not always be the center of attention. It is very difficult to ignore the baby but it is so necessary sometimes. Pretty soon, he will learn to entertain himself for a while when Daddy comes home. Then when baby is asleep, you can really have a close conversation with your husband and quality time. My mom gave me that advice before I got married (about always putting your husband above your children) and it's hard but I believe in it so very much!